Wants VS Needs

Until my mind grew up, I used to often confuse wants with needs…
I’d say things like...

I need a man
And he needs to be tall
And he needs to be rich
And he needs to be handsome
And he needs to have his own place
And he needs to be doing something with his life
He needs to be funny
And he needs to be highly intelligent
And he needs to be caring and compassionate
And he needs to know exactly what I need him to do without me having to tell him.

Then my mind starting growing up…
And I realized a few things…
I didn’t NEED any of these things
I WANTED a man,
A tall,
Rich,
Handsome man,
A man with his own place,
Who was going somewhere in life
A funny,
Highly intelligent,
Caring and compassionate,
Damn near psychic man.

I also realized that maybe,
JUST maybe…
He didn’t have to be tall… Medium height could suffice…
He didn’t have to be rich… Just financially stable
He didn’t have to be handsome… Just as long as he was decent looking and kept himself up
He didn’t have to have his own place, as long as he wasn’t planning on living with his parents FOREVER
He DID, however, have to be doing something with his life, though…
Because I can’t stand people who are comfortable living off of others… But I digress.
He didn’t have to be outrageously funny, just as long as something about his personality was interesting enough to keep my attention
He didn’t have to be highly intelligent, just as long as I didn’t constantly debate within myself whether he or butter had the higher IQ
He didn’t have to be the most caring, compassionate man in the world, as long as I could tell that he did have emotions and wasn’t hardened to life
And he DEFINITELY didn’t have to be psychic, because I know that is unreasonable, and seeing as I pride myself in being a grown woman, I also know that grown women don’t EXPECT people to know what they are thinking, but EXPRESS THEMSELVES so as to make it abundantly clear.

And I’m glad I realized that all of these are wants, because I now can see past the wants, to figure out the needs….
For instance, I now know that I NEED to work on aspects of myself to become a better me
Because without me being the best ME I can be, who am I to want so much of someone else?

[END]

-Mizz Underztood, still on the search for clarity-